Dear MLM Moms…STOP TRYING TO SELL ME DIET SHIT ON FACEBOOK!
Look, I’ve been there. In fact, I’m living it right now. I’m a stay-at-home-mom with a Music Education degree I’m not using. I’ve got a great big fancy degree that I’m still paying for, and I’m raising kids all day instead of using it. I just got done signing up for summer school for my kids, two family birthdays are right around the corner, followed by three more birthdays in September, and before I know it Christmas will be here again. Life is expensive. And there could always be more money.
It starts out so innocently. I get a Facebook friendship request from someone. We have mutual friends. Did we meet at a playdate? Go to high school together? Who is this? If I don’t accept, will I run into this person later and have to deal with an awkward confrontation? The whole thing is just awkward! Why are we sending friendship requests to people we don’t know?! This is happening to me at least weekly. And I’m not alone. My fellow mom friends experience it with the same frequency I do.
Don’t get me wrong; I have mad respect for my friends who are working from home and making a living doing so. That’s what I’m doing too by writing this blog! I like to support other momtrepreneurs that I know. I have friends who sell a whole slew of things from essential oils to weight loss shakes and everything in between. If I need nail stickers I know where to go. If I want some all natural cleaning supplies, I know where to go. But honestly? I’m sick to death of MLM moms who I DON’T EVEN KNOW trying to sell me shit that’s going to change my life.
Specifically, the moms I’m talking about are those who are trying to sell me on weight loss supplements. Believe me…I’ve pushed out three children in the last 5 years and I’ve gained and lost more weight than I care to admit three times in a row. Do I currently have an extra twenty pounds of jiggle I’d love to lose? Absolutely. But I don’t need your help. Weight loss is a touchy subject and when you are reaching out to people you’ve never met, you have NO IDEA what their journey is in life. I don’t need to be pushed and prodded to get out my credit card so I can charge more than I spend on groceries in a month on your cleanse. I don’t like that our interaction started with you looking up random Facebook profiles of people, and settling on MINE as the person you’d pitch your weight loss product to. I believe that I’m worth more than my current pants size, and it’s icky to me that the only reason you want to connect with me on social media is to pad your pocket over the idea that I need to lose a couple pounds.
In my family, we don’t talk about body size. It’s just not important. If you come to my house, the “F” word is fat, not fuck. If you use the word fat around my children, I hope you’re talking about things and not people. I’m teaching my children to love people, including themselves, regardless of their size. I tell them I exercise to be healthy and strong, which is 100% true. I love going to the gym because burning calories feels good, being fit is empowering, and I want to live a long life. Having a nice body is a byproduct of treating myself with respect. Eating nutritious food more than I splurge and having a fitness regimen most days of the week is the most effective way I’ve ever found to have a body I love. And these extra pounds? They’re temporary. I have three beautiful children to show for my curvaceous body. I’m ok with it.
If you’re an MLM mom, please have some respect. If you have been on a weight loss journey and you’re killing it, that’s amazing! But please don’t message me cold when I don’t know you to prey on my insecurities. It’s rude and frankly, my answer will always be no! If you want to get to know me (and not under the guise of making me a future customer of yours) then let’s hang out. If I am a good friend and something changed your life on such a deep level that you wouldn’t feel right not telling me about it, that’s different. But in the meantime, stop trying to sell me diet shit on Facebook.