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how do you know when your family is completeCome September, we will have a three year old and a one year old. Where does the time go? I find myself reflecting upon life this time last year. I had an almost two year old, was super pregnant, and gearing up to move out of our tiny apartment into our first home. I was so, so tired and stressed out I didn’t even know what to do with myself. I was packing moving boxes with a stomach out to HERE trying to get our lives together for the next adventure.

 

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Fast forward to this year, we are trying to decide if we are totally done having kids or if we’ll have one more. I honestly have no idea what we will do. We currently have two beautiful, healthy little girls that are super active and a total handful. I love staying home with them, but WHOA am I ever tired by the time 4:40 pm rolls around and my husband gets home from work. Yes, I know the exact minute my husband is supposed to come home and rescue me! 

There are three huge roadblocks to our decision of whether we should continue to expand our family. The first is our house. When we bought our house last fall we were looking for three bedroom and four bedroom homes. We knew there was a chance that we would try for a third down the line. We knew when we put in offer in on this three bedroom house that it was probably not our forever home, but adding another kiddo to the mix would seal the deal and we would be looking for another house again in a few years.

me feeding sibbyThe second is finances. We’ve done a lot to clean up our money situation in the last few years, but if we got pregnant with a third (right now) we would have two kids and diapers and three kids under four. That’s a lot of expenses! We’re on the fence of public vs. private school for our kids so that is yet another factor. Saving for college for three would be a little bit crazy too. Oh yeah, and we’re currently on one income (plus my tiny blog income). Imagine if we had a third girl, the drama! And imagine if we had a boy…we’d have to buy a whole new wardrobe for one.

healthy mama protein energy drinkLastly, at the end of the day, I don’t know if I have any more energy left for one more kid. I typically wake up around 7:30 am and between watching the kids, supporting my husband’s endeavors, cooking, cleaning, laundry, the gym, blogging, and trying to find a few minutes for myself it is usually at least 12:30 am before I get to bed. It’s an exhausting lifestyle. Kids are little energy vampires- they sap me for all my energy all day long and I usually crawl into bed at the end of the night with barely enough energy to keep my eyes open until my head hits the pillow.

I nursed both my kids- Jocelyn went for 14 months and Sabrina is still going strong at 10 months. I enjoy spending the close time together with my babies but man is it a time and energy suck. I can’t be away from her for more than a few hours at a time since she won’t drink pumped milk. It’s a lot of work! To keep my energy levels up, I try to make sure I get as much protein as I can, and I was happy to recently discover healthy mama®  brand Boost It Up! Protein Energy Drink. When you’re nursing your body is not really your own- you can’t drink too much coffee because everything you consume goes to the baby. 

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healthy mama®  brand Boost It Up! Protein Energy Drink is caffeine free, but you get your energy from the protein, B-vitamins, fiber and electrolytes found within. I got the Mango with Ginger flavor which I can’t help but think would be a tasty anti-nausea drink for the preggo crowd as well. 

It’s hard to know what you can and can’t take when you’re pregnant so when I was at Target checking out the healthy mama® brand, I was happy to see a pregnancy safe antacid Tame the Flame! Heartburn Relief and boy did that ever bring back memories of last summer for me. I had horrible heartburn during both of my pregnancies. I did pick up Make the Milk!, an organic tea that supports lactation and Calm the Crazy!, an organic tea with stomach-calming spearmint and peppermint, soothing chamomile and raspberry leaf to calm queasy pregnancy bellies…you know just in case!

So what’s the verdict? Will we have another? We haven’t ruled it out but it’s such a big decision that we are just not ready to make it yet. Being honest with ourselves about what we can and can’t handle has been eye opening. I know we would never regret having another kid, but I’m just not quite there yet! 

If you have kids, how many do you have and how did you know when your family was complete? How do you keep your energy levels up? If you don’t have kids, are you considering starting a family someday? I’d love to hear any advice you may have! 

4 Comments on How Do You Know When Your Family is Complete?

  1. Erika
    July 20, 2015 at 4:38 am (2 years ago)

    I knew that I was done after one. Our son was a happy accident. lol Our joy and heart but a total surprise as we had planned to remain child free. Funny how life throws these amazing curve balls at you.

    As time passes, you’ll know whether you want to expand your family or hold steady. You’ll have no doubt and when you act on that decision, whatever it is, it will be absolutely right for you and your family. 🙂

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    • justina
      July 20, 2015 at 10:47 am (2 years ago)

      Thanks Erika for the sweet words. I keep hoping I get this overwhelming feeling one way or the other, but so far, nope. lol

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  2. Bethany
    July 20, 2015 at 11:19 am (2 years ago)

    Well – I’ve been of the thought that you only regret the ones you didn’t have and not the ones you do. wink emoticon So if I felt like my family wasn’t complete, then I wasn’t going to stop unless my health made that decision for me. I finally felt complete after I had my seventh child -and second girl. smile emoticon
    As far as room space – three bedroom is totally do-able for three kids! We don’t have a 7-bedroom house lol…we only have a four bedroom house. Kids can share rooms and be just as happy. My kids prefer to share rooms actually – even my 16 yr old son. wink emoticon You can put a bunk bed into a room and fit two kids per room easily.
    Education – We are of the mindset that, in regards to college, it isn’t our responsibility to pay for our adult child’s education. I think that is a valuable skill for a new adult to learn to do for themselves. They also value it more when they are the ones who have to work hard for it. Now, my parents a good idea in which they paid for the first year or two of schooling, then the next two+ years were the responsibility of the adult child. smile emoticon
    As far as private vs public – most private schools give you a discount if you have multiple children enrolled. wink emoticon

    The big kicker is YOU… how much can you handle? Also, there isn’t really a rush to have another child so soon… give it some time and then decide. An age spacing of 3 years was easiest with my kiddos!

    Personally, I find the more kids the easier it gets in many ways. Of course in some ways it can be more difficult, but those are the fleeting moments. For the most part, more kids means that they entertain each other, watch out for each other, and have constant lifelong playmates… it has been such a blessing watching our children’s sibling relationships!

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  3. Kate
    July 20, 2015 at 1:33 pm (2 years ago)

    2 is boring Justina! You definitely need 3. How much more tired can you get? It’s incremental now. Plus, you don’t need a bigger house for another one; sharing bedrooms builds character and sibling relationships. I would have killed for a sister to share a room with. Bring on baby 3!

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